Sun Aug 03, 2003 6:23 am
The "N" has spoken!
Sun Aug 03, 2003 7:10 am
any questions yet??:P
Sun Aug 03, 2003 10:34 am
O.o @ 'N'
I think things will be slow around here and in the various ECGN game-platforms as guys rush off to practice those very wise words of 'N'.
I think things will be slow around here and in the various ECGN game-platforms as guys rush off to practice those very wise words of 'N'.
Sun Aug 03, 2003 10:39 am
N's been in the S.S. clan for over a year and he's said maybe 6 words in a sentence at the most....now look at him.
I guess he just had Vocabularic Release.
I guess he just had Vocabularic Release.
Sun Aug 03, 2003 10:53 am
Keek if you want to get a women just be yourself. There are a lot of things that you can try to do to get a girl the most important thing is being your self.
Sun Aug 03, 2003 10:54 am
Well it's clear to me that 'N' could make a lot of money giving real-life steamy romantic affairs to some Harlequin writer. I'm surprised 'N' has the time to play given his 'T'alent.
I keep hearing people say 'Be yourself'. I have a fairly strong personality, as onlyhere4savage can probably attest. Still, the only thing I feel around attractive ladies is a neurotic mess. Out the window are my wit, confidance, intelligence, etc. I become encased in this creepy shell of some dumb dufus who is stricken by palsy, paranoia, bad hair, smelly breath, arm-pit leakage so strong a turbine generator should be attached to it, the conviction that I didn't clean my nasal passages correctly and just where the hell DID that piece go when I sneezed in the bathroom?, poorly dressed, glasses skewed, socially inept, thin-muscled dweeb with a serious case, probably requiring heavy sedation, of over-compensation. Not to mention that if an attractive lady actually approaches me I gape in a manner resembling a beached fish while at the same time developing a look similar to that worn by deer just before the transport truck hits them.
So much for being yourself.
I keep hearing people say 'Be yourself'. I have a fairly strong personality, as onlyhere4savage can probably attest. Still, the only thing I feel around attractive ladies is a neurotic mess. Out the window are my wit, confidance, intelligence, etc. I become encased in this creepy shell of some dumb dufus who is stricken by palsy, paranoia, bad hair, smelly breath, arm-pit leakage so strong a turbine generator should be attached to it, the conviction that I didn't clean my nasal passages correctly and just where the hell DID that piece go when I sneezed in the bathroom?, poorly dressed, glasses skewed, socially inept, thin-muscled dweeb with a serious case, probably requiring heavy sedation, of over-compensation. Not to mention that if an attractive lady actually approaches me I gape in a manner resembling a beached fish while at the same time developing a look similar to that worn by deer just before the transport truck hits them.
So much for being yourself.
Sun Aug 03, 2003 10:58 am
Originally posted by Hellacious
Keek if you want to get a women just be yourself. There are a lot of things that you can try to do to get a girl the most important thing is being your self.
Hellacious....I have no difficulty with ladies. I created this thread as a means by which we could share our thoughts about dating and kind of laugh at each other.
Further, I find it fascinating that only men here say how they approach women. Women, on the other hand, only give advice about how men should approach them. I guess this means that women don't ever have to 'go for' a guy. Other than to wear a top showing some cleavage. C'mon....there's got to be more than that. Ok, cleavage is important and an unsporstman like advantage in the dating game, but SURELY the women out here can stop telling us how to come on to them, and tell us what they do to get OUR attention.
Mon Aug 04, 2003 6:14 am
I think that was fucking brilliant. Extremely well said N.
Mon Aug 04, 2003 6:24 am
I'dd have to agree with N on almost every level of his long winded yet perfectly brilliant angle on the world that he's captured. I realize that I am something like the third road in his post, only I have no worries becuase I am 95% sure that there is a girl out in this enourmous world that is for me. I am unable to dilute myself and I never was. I mean I can act down for social situations and I have an ability to be anything but offending. You know what I mean, I am not sicknigly "myself no matter what anyone says" all the time to a general audience. Now as far as a girl is concerned, I won't change myself at all, I won't even think about it. Because most of the time I get good feedback about them this way. If I girl dislikes a part of me that I can never live without, then she is pointless to be in a relationship with. I can't even deal with it just for sex. I just don't bend. I am pure to myself, I have my own morals and I'm athiest. so I don't mean god's pure, but if there is one thing in this world I truly understand its myself. I am not going to fake who I am to someone I'm going to spend alot of time with becuase then they will end up fogging the one clear view I have, myself.
Wed Aug 06, 2003 11:41 am
Originally posted by Oxygen
The first thing that a male could do to set himself from the rest of the pack is being respectful.
So, asking her if she gives Skymiles credit probably isn't good, eh?
Wed Aug 06, 2003 4:00 pm
I'm 39 and have come across this concept of 'soul-mate' a lot in my life. Once upon a time I believed it to be true. I met a girl in University that, the first time I saw here (across a lecture hall with about 300 people in it) I knew we'd one day be together. A year later we ran into each other in a variety store on campus and were living together the next day. She was the only person I've ever been around that would actually take my breath away. We didn't need to talk much as we both 'knew' how/what each other thought. 4 years later she partnered up with a young University professor--a good friend of mine (at the time). It taught me some important lessons.
Here's what I figured out. Yes, I think humans (and animals when it comes to that) have 'souls'. Can't define or describe it really, but I know 'I' have one.
Souls, through the medium of the body, percieve 'life' or 'reality' fundamentally differently. When you come in proximity to someone who's soul senses/lives life similar to the way you do, a bond can easily occur.
Unfortunately, most of us interface with 'life/reality' through our personalities. Personalities are the attributes and characteristics unique to each of us that are derived from what we've been taught/experienced in life.
Souls don't change, but personalities are this chameleon identity we interact with others through, an identity which is constantly morphing as it goes through life.
So, two people meet. Perhaps their souls are similar. But are their personalities? Will their personalities eventually morph so much apart that they can no longer stand each other? Probably. Statistically, some 80% of marriages end up in divorce.
My wisdom? Find people you generally like and hang out with them. Enjoy them while you can, but know that they, and you, are changing constantly. Perhaps those changes will bring you closer, perhaps not.
Here's what I figured out. Yes, I think humans (and animals when it comes to that) have 'souls'. Can't define or describe it really, but I know 'I' have one.
Souls, through the medium of the body, percieve 'life' or 'reality' fundamentally differently. When you come in proximity to someone who's soul senses/lives life similar to the way you do, a bond can easily occur.
Unfortunately, most of us interface with 'life/reality' through our personalities. Personalities are the attributes and characteristics unique to each of us that are derived from what we've been taught/experienced in life.
Souls don't change, but personalities are this chameleon identity we interact with others through, an identity which is constantly morphing as it goes through life.
So, two people meet. Perhaps their souls are similar. But are their personalities? Will their personalities eventually morph so much apart that they can no longer stand each other? Probably. Statistically, some 80% of marriages end up in divorce.
My wisdom? Find people you generally like and hang out with them. Enjoy them while you can, but know that they, and you, are changing constantly. Perhaps those changes will bring you closer, perhaps not.
Wed Aug 06, 2003 8:38 pm
very deep.....
Wed Aug 06, 2003 8:55 pm
LOL@Croc
Wed Aug 06, 2003 9:16 pm
Very perspicacious N. Good post, but this post only talked about getting the hottest girl or white whale. We gotta also talk about LOVE man. Looks fade.
Wed Aug 06, 2003 11:34 pm
Keekanoo said:
Hilarious!
Personally, I don't "approach" women. Fuck it. Why work yourself up to go play 20 questions with some girl who probably, no matter how nice you play it, thinks you just want to get laid, on the off chance that you'll get a phone number and maybe see her again. IF you can even hear what she's saying, so you don't feel like a dick for not remembering the whole story about her sister and their trip to Bali.
I figure, it's all about friends. Make friends, share friends. Introduce these friends to those friends. If they do the same, then perhaps in the middle of a conversation at some get-together you'll find that you just can't stop talking to this one person and you'll agree to meet later. She already knows you're somewhat okay, because you're a friend-of-a-friend, and you can get to know them without having to carry the conversation all on your own. Most married couples I know, they met their spouse through friends.
Has this worked for me. No. But one former school-mate has a healthy thing building with another school-mate's neighbor.
As for confidence, it has taken me 25 years, but I finally feel comfortable in my own skin, and it makes a world of difference with the opposite sex. For most of my life, I was insecure, nervous, and lonely. I was certainly not cool.
The other night, I had two attractive female friends tell me that I was the coolest guy they knew. Not because of some jacket or attitude. What they liked was that I was comfortable talking about anything, didn't approach them like I was trying to get in their pants, didn't tease them like my sister, and didn't care about how what I said would reflect on my masculinity. If only I had figured that out back in high school.
I'm still lonely, and plan to be for a long time. I don't think there's a soul-mate out there, but you definitely get a vibe off some girls that tell you whether they are interested, and so far I've gotten that from very few, and none worked out. I am the "nice guy," and I think there's still many miles left in the race. I think the one thing I haven't developed is aggresiveness. Women want to be pursued, and I tend to just sit back and enjoy her company.
Then again, maybe prostitution is the way to go. I can get emotional support from my female friends, and I bet paying for sex is cheaper than keeping a steady girlfriend. Sure, you'll never have a family, but that's what siblings are for. It's much easier to be the cool uncle. Of course, you could only do this in Vegas, because of the health issues.
Women should come with an Orgamo Meter. It should have on it various readings like "Keep up the good work your almost there" or "Not today on your life buddy, she's thinking about the grocery list" or "Pretend your someone else--anyone, just not you" or "Increase speed 23% and drift to the left" or "You should have gotten your buddy to call you at a specific time. Idiot."
Hilarious!
Personally, I don't "approach" women. Fuck it. Why work yourself up to go play 20 questions with some girl who probably, no matter how nice you play it, thinks you just want to get laid, on the off chance that you'll get a phone number and maybe see her again. IF you can even hear what she's saying, so you don't feel like a dick for not remembering the whole story about her sister and their trip to Bali.
I figure, it's all about friends. Make friends, share friends. Introduce these friends to those friends. If they do the same, then perhaps in the middle of a conversation at some get-together you'll find that you just can't stop talking to this one person and you'll agree to meet later. She already knows you're somewhat okay, because you're a friend-of-a-friend, and you can get to know them without having to carry the conversation all on your own. Most married couples I know, they met their spouse through friends.
Has this worked for me. No. But one former school-mate has a healthy thing building with another school-mate's neighbor.
As for confidence, it has taken me 25 years, but I finally feel comfortable in my own skin, and it makes a world of difference with the opposite sex. For most of my life, I was insecure, nervous, and lonely. I was certainly not cool.
The other night, I had two attractive female friends tell me that I was the coolest guy they knew. Not because of some jacket or attitude. What they liked was that I was comfortable talking about anything, didn't approach them like I was trying to get in their pants, didn't tease them like my sister, and didn't care about how what I said would reflect on my masculinity. If only I had figured that out back in high school.
I'm still lonely, and plan to be for a long time. I don't think there's a soul-mate out there, but you definitely get a vibe off some girls that tell you whether they are interested, and so far I've gotten that from very few, and none worked out. I am the "nice guy," and I think there's still many miles left in the race. I think the one thing I haven't developed is aggresiveness. Women want to be pursued, and I tend to just sit back and enjoy her company.
Then again, maybe prostitution is the way to go. I can get emotional support from my female friends, and I bet paying for sex is cheaper than keeping a steady girlfriend. Sure, you'll never have a family, but that's what siblings are for. It's much easier to be the cool uncle. Of course, you could only do this in Vegas, because of the health issues.